Mom to Maggie, Jack and Alice
Supervisor, Outreach & Engagement
Length of maternity leave: 4-months
Childcare: Daycare and Family
What did you struggle with most about returning to work after having your kids?
Returning to work after my first child was brutal. I was too physically and emotionally attached to her, so I ended up quitting my job to stay home with her for 10 months. Returning to work after having the twins was much easier since my maternity leave was less than enjoyable. I was ready to get some normalcy back in my life. It helps that I am only working 3 days a week.
What do you find difficult about being a working parent?
It's hard to work when we have a bad night (happens often with infant twins) and am on very little sleep. It's also hard to leave my babies sometimes, as they get older and more interactive, I feel sad when I miss certain milestones. Luckily part-time work allows me to spend extra time with them so it's a good balance.
What do you enjoy about being a working parent?
It's a break from mom-life. Having adult conversations. Feeling successful and feeling as though I have accomplished something outside motherhood. It allows me to be a more present mother when I am home.
After being back at work for some time, have your views about career and family changed?
It is becoming more evident that having a job with flexibility is so important as a mom, and even more so as a mom of 3. Also, making sure I am leaving my children only for a job I enjoy is a priority.
Knowing what you know now, what’s one thing you wish you could go back in time and tell yourself as you were preparing to return to work or getting ramped up in your role?
Meal prep. I should have prepared more meals for our family to have in the freezer when there is no time to cook at night!
What did you choose for childcare, and how has it been for your family?
Daycare for older child; Family member for babies
There are so many pros! Daycare is wonderful for my 3 year old. She is stimulated and there is consistency. And with my Mother in Law taking care of the babies, we have the best of both worlds.
Anything else you'd like to share?
Every situation is different, from child to child. What works for you the first time may not the second, third, or fourth time. Staying flexible and finding balance has been key for my sanity.