Mom to Buel and RJ
Partner Investment Supervisor
Length of maternity leave: 12 weeks
What did you struggle with most about returning to work after having your kids?
When I hit the end of my maternity leave, I was ready to get back to work. I missed the feeling of crossing things off my to-list, interacting with my coworkers and feeling the sense of pride that only my career gives me. I was ready, and I’m not ashamed to admit I did not feel guilty at daycare drop off that morning. In my mind, I knew that my son’s teachers were qualified, and I knew I was only a call away. Then, reality set in, and I spent my first few weeks back in the workforce navigating feelings of unease and insecurity. I felt like a completely different person and my life had totally changed — but everything at work seemed exactly as I had left it. Once I accepted this fact, I could use this to my advantage and since then I have become an even better version of myself.
What do you find difficult about being a working parent?
The biggest challenge as a working Mom for me is the feeling of being pulled in every direction at all times. I want to be the best mom, wife, boss and friend I can be! I have learned that taking care of myself is the key to operating at my best and have learned to prioritize my non-negotiables. Also, I have learned that no is a full sentence and to use it often.
What do you enjoy about being a working parent?
I enjoy feeling fulfilled in my life and enjoy leading by example. I grew up with hard working parents, and knowing the work ethic that was instilled in me from this example motivates me to do the same.
After being back at work for some time, have your views about career and family changed?
Not really! I did go through a priority shift when I became a working mom, but once I aligned my life to my priorities I feel that I truly am living a live that's aligned to my values. It feels really good!
Knowing what you know now, what’s one thing you wish you could go back in time and tell yourself as you were preparing to return to work or getting ramped up in your role?
I would remind myself that everything happens in phases! Yes, in the beginning you'll be exhausted and you may be wearing maternity pants when you go back to work, but it'll pass. Remind yourself early and often that you are doing your best and you'll make it through!
What did you choose for childcare, and how has it been for your family?
We love daycare. The pros are that we have full-time care that aligns well to our schedules, but because both my husband and I work long hours the con is that my son is there for long hours. However, he never wants to go home, has learned so much and has made friends so I do not feel too guilty about it.