Mom to Henley and Chase
What did you struggle with most about returning to work after having your kids? After my first child, the potential regret I may have and the pain from leaving her in someone else’s care, unsure whether or not I’d make it through the day, unsure if I could be the working Mom and perform as I did before. After my second child, all the same struggles but worse.
What do you find difficult about being a working parent? While at work, it is the constant wonder I have about what my kids are doing every moment of every day. When at home, maintaining enough energy to do all the things parents are supposed to do.
What do you enjoy about being a working parent? The support it provides to our family, and the balance it brings to my life
After being back at work for some time, have your views about career and family changed? Not a day goes by without thinking whether or not we’re doing the right thing. Most days I’m confident in our choices, but there are days where I question it. Being able to disconnect from work is extremely important. I’ve really had to work at it since having a family. Because my time with them is limited after a work day, that time has to be the very best it can be, no distractions.
Knowing what you know now, what’s one thing you wish you could go back in time and tell yourself as you were preparing to return to work or getting ramped up in your role? I had such high expectations for myself. I was so hard on myself. Give yourself just a little break, and be patient.
What did you choose for childcare, and how has it been for your family? Daycare for the first year first child. Nanny at home since birth of second child. For the Nanny: Pros - having my kids in the comfort of their own home, especially on sick days. Allowing them to sleep in, logistically easier. Less germs. Cons - it is more expensive. Having to depend on and trust a single individual for the safety and well being of the kids. Less social stimulation.