Mom to Savannah
Length of Maternity Leave: 4-months
Childcare: Grandparent and Daycare
What did you struggle with most about returning to work after having your kids?
The hardest part of returning to work was missing so much time with my daughter during the week. I almost never see her before work since I have a long commute, and only spend a couple hours with her before bedtime in the evenings. I also struggled with the lack of sleep and maintaining my attention at work.
What do you find difficult about being a working parent?
It is hard to balance it all, and I don’t think there ever will be a 100% balance between work and being a mom. My priority will always be my daughter but sometimes I have to make sacrifices to spend more time at work than I want to.
What do you enjoy about being a working parent?
I enjoy being able to provide my family with a comfortable home, to go on vacations, and to feel financially secure. I also enjoy the satisfaction that comes with nailing a presentation or solving a difficult problem at work.
After being back at work for some time, have your views about career and family changed?
My views are the same as when I went back to work 14 months ago - I would love to stay at home with my daughter, but I also want to maintain our lifestyle and provide as much as I can for my daughter. It doesn’t get easier being away from her, but it helps knowing she is under great care while I’m at work.
Knowing what you know now, what’s one thing you wish you could go back in time and tell yourself as you were preparing to return to work or getting ramped up in your role?
Don’t worry about the dishes, the laundry, the mess. Spend as much time memorizing every smile and giggle. This time is precious and irreplaceable!
What did you choose for childcare, and how has it been for your family?
Grandparent care (2 days a week) and daycare (3 days a week)
We love having Savannah’s grandmother watch her 2 days a week, and they both enjoy the quality time together! Daycare is very expensive, but it’s also great that she is learning so much and socializing with other kids.
My employer recently instituted a 16 week paid maternity leave (after the birth of my first child). I am so grateful and hope that more employers move in this direction in the future!