Mom to Charles
Length of Maternity Leave: 13-weeks
Childcare: None, both parents WFH
What did you struggle with most about returning to work after having your kids?
I really struggled with letting someone else be in control - even though it was my husband and I was working from home.
What do you find difficult about being a working parent?
Even though I work from home, it's still difficult to focus on work and not hop up to comfort my son when he cries or when I just want to smother him with kisses
What do you enjoy about being a working parent?
I really like that it gives my brain a break from thinking about baby related stuff. Excel spreadsheets don't fit in taking care of my baby!
After being back at work for some time, have your views about career and family changed?
Honestly, not really. I knew even before I had my son that I'd need to do some kind of work to maintain my sanity. I knew that I was going to go back to work no matter how hard I knew it would be initially. I did gain some insight about why some women decide to become stay at home moms and I absolutely respect those women for that choice - I even wonder if that would be a path I would take if more kids came along. My current take is that I need to be well rounded so I can raise a well rounded kid. And working is a part of that.
Knowing what you know now, what’s one thing you wish you could go back in time and tell yourself as you were preparing to return to work or getting ramped up in your role?
Don't freak out! Things will work themselves out and you'll figure out what works best for you and your family. Don't dwell on the what ifs.
What did you choose for childcare, and how has it been for your family?
None. My husband and I both work from home. We're considering hiring a part time nanny
Pros - I have easy access to my son. The bond between father and son is developed. It's free. I don't miss any milestones
Cons - I have easy access to my son. It can be distracting. It's hard for my husband to get his freelance work done during the day.
My situation is pretty ideal (husband and I both work from home) but it comes with its challenges. I've learned that I need to be flexible so I won't be crazy stressed out when something doesn't work